Sorry I missed our Coffee Date last week! Well, I guess I didn’t really miss it — I was emerging from the fog, remember?
If we were having coffee today, I would tell you that I’ve been thinking a lot lately about those trendy buzzwords — introversion and extroversion. I think Albert and I would each define ourselves as “introverts” to varying degrees. We both can be outgoing and like social contact (me probably more than him — hence the blogging and my desire to talk things out to an extent that he finds annoying), but we also both crave our quiet alone time (for me, it’s my sewing time). It is becoming abundantly clear, however, that J is a truly extroverted child. Not in the sense of being the loudest, most gregarious, boisterous kid in the room (though sometimes that is true), but in the sense that he craves company and needs to be around other people to relax.
I’m not talking about the phenomenon of a generation that constantly needs to be entertained — we have not spent his whole life entertaining him. This really goes deeper, down to the very essence of how he processes his feelings and perceives the world. Being alone scares him, it stresses him out and makes him really anxious. In the same way that a truly introverted person gets stressed out being in a noisy room full of boisterous people. J wants to be around other people all the time. Even if he’s doing a quiet, “alone” activity like reading a book or playing a game, he wants to do it while sitting next to someone. If I’m going to spend some time sewing during a weekend afternoon, he sits next to me at my sewing table and plays a game. He expresses his emotion outwardly, rarely, if ever, keeping things bottled up. I’m gathering that this is completely normal for an extroverted child, but to the more introverted, like me and Albert, he can appear to be whiny or acting out inappropriately.
We’re slowly learning how to deal with J’s personality that is so different from our own. This past week, I’ve been working with him on slowly getting used to doing small tasks by himself. Little things like going to the bathroom alone, running upstairs by himself to grab a pair of socks, or going into the basement alone to set up whatever game or toys he wants to play with before we make it downstairs. But I’ll admit, it’s challenging. Can anyone out there relate?
If we were having coffee, I would tell you that I am very happy to have my husband back home after his weeklong golfing trip with his college buddies. They spent most of the last week in Myrtle Beach, South Carolina, hanging out and golfing. Obaachan (my mother-in-law) and I manned the kids while he was gone, and we had a nice week with more “Mommy-time” than they would typically have during the work week. We had a beautiful, slightly windy weekend and spent lots and lots of time outside flying kites!
And please don’t ask when I’m going to get my “me time” vacation. I’m still breastfeeding Baby J, so until he’s weaned (likely in the fall), I’m pretty much tethered to the kids. Not my ideal situation, but a reality of being “mommy” that I accepted a long time ago.
On a lighter note, if we were having coffee this morning, I would tell you that I am LOVING the new spring collection from Republique du Chiffon! I’ve seen this French pattern company pop up a few places in blogland recently (most notably, Kelly’s awesome Gerard coat!), and the simple, effortlessly chic vibe really appeals to me. I love the loose silhouettes in this new collection — easy gathered dresses, elegant shifts, interesting but relaxed basics. THIS is the style that I want to create for myself! And so I bought four of the new patterns. I know, I know, I have more patterns than I will ever be able to make, but I just couldn’t resist! I’m thinking the Monique dress, a loose shift with cutouts on the sleeves, may be perfect for my brother’s Florida wedding this fall!
Oh, and I would also tell you how excited I was for the start of BASEBALL SEASON earlier this week! I’m not a huge sports person, but to me, the Royals on television in the evening means summer.
If we were having coffee, what would you tell me?