Coffee Date Friday

Coffee Date Friday

It’s been a while since I’ve checked in with y’all!  And since I’m not really feeling motivated to write another pattern review and I don’t have good outfit photos today, I thought we could just have a coffee date and talk some straight talk instead.



For those of you newer to this blog, Coffee Date Friday used to be a regular thing around here until it … wasn’t.  But since there is so much more to my life, and all of our lives, than sewing, I kind of want to revive this weekly tradition.

So if we were having coffee this morning, I would tell you that one of the reasons I haven’t published a post in more than 3 weeks is because I’m having an ongoing debate about the future of this space.  What it looks like, how often I post in here, what types of posts would be most useful, etc.  Simple “hey here’s what I made” or “here’s what I wore” posts are easiest for me since they only require a few photos and minimal writing effort.  But I also know that those types of posts aren’t particularly useful for readers and don’t have a lot of staying power.  I’d love to do more tutorials and educational-type posts, but those require a substantial amount of work and would definitely mean less frequent posting.  So my debate continues.

If we were having coffee, I would also tell you that another blog-related thing I’m struggling with is how to make a little bit of money off this space.  I mean, it’s never going to be a huge money-making venture or even slightly replace my day job, but blogging takes a lot of time and money, so it would be nice if this space could supplement those costs at least a little bit.

If we were having coffee, I would tell you that I’ve been working to minimize the stuff in my house.  Part of that has been a major fabric destash.  I’m selling off a huge chunk of my stash over on Instagram.  If you’re interested at all, I have a new account set up here with lots of goodies at cheap prices 🙂  I’m also in a constant state of “clean out” and “throw out” lately.  I cleaned out a bunch of kid toys last week and have sold a bunch of unused stuff that was cluttering up my house as well.  I’m gearing up to paint the remaining portions of my house that have not been painted since we moved in 7 years ago.  It will be quite an undertaking, but I’m excited to get started.

If we were having coffee this morning, I would tell you that I’ve just been tired lately.  I’ve felt a little meh overall, I haven’t been sleeping well, and I just feel kind of run down.  On Monday evening I was a complete b&*#$ mom.  I was impatient, short-tempered, and just kinda mean.  I had taken a new allergy medicine the night before that made me feel really groggy and off, and I was definitely not my best me the following day.  I didn’t take that medicine again and got more sleep Monday night and thankfully I was a lot better on Tuesday.

If we were having coffee, I would also tell you that I’ve been really lazy with my eating habits lately and I seriously need to get back on my game.  I always struggle at this time of year because there are lots of social things going on, and I tend to feel pretty tired with the start of school, sports seasons, etc.  But I can feel inches creeping back on, and I definitely need to nip that in the bud.  Getting serious about my health takes a lot of time, energy, and dedication, so I may need moral support along the way!

If we were having coffee, I would tell you that my new iPhone 8 Plus is scheduled to be delivered today!  I’m pretty excited about this because (1) new phone, and (2) the camera on the iPhone pluses is pretty amazing.  Albert had a 7 Plus and he could take beautiful camera photos.  I want to get good with my new phone camera so that I can up my Instagram game.

If we were having coffee, what would you tell me?


17 thoughts on “Coffee Date Friday

  1. love your honesty. i am learning that the start of the school year is a stressful time for our family. so many new schedules, commitments, etc. my biggest struggle these days is yelling. i have never been a yeller, but now i find myself yelling at my kids. i wouldn’t yell at my friends or husband, but for some reason, my autopilot thinks it is ok to yell at my lovely daughters. i really need to stop. i added “no Yelling” to our sticker chart today and so far, i am not earning my sticker. 🙁

    deep breaths.

    1. Oh, I am so with you on this! I have never in my life been a yeller … until the little guy turned about 2. Now there are times I feel like I have to yell just to get their attention and be heard over the constant racket in my house. Add to that the fact that the little guy has been a terrible threenager for about the last two years, and yeah, lots of deep breathing.

  2. I would tell you all about my planning for my trip to Europe next week…and of course I have looked into fabric and yarn shops. I would tell you about my upcoming travel schedule, and my concerns that it will kill my creative energy for a bit. I would pick your brain for more sewing projects for an appropriate work wardrobe, because I discovered this week 50% of my closet doesn’t fit anymore. I don’t want to complain, because I set out to lose weight and accomplished it….but it is frustrating to not be able to wear so many of my favorite things.

    1. Oh, it sounds like we would have a lovely conversation! Europe and sewing — two of my favorite topics 🙂

      When you need a lot of work clothes quickly, which it sounds like you do, I would tell you over coffee to focus first on some simple pieces that you can make quickly. Like a couple of knit pencil skirts or swing skirts (whichever is your jam) and maybe a few woven tanks and tees. Then throw in a couple of simple dresses (maybe a knit swing dress and a woven shift). You could get those sewn up in a week or so and have something to wear while you take your time digging into the more complicated pieces like some great dress trousers or a blazer.

    2. Oh, and I would also tell you that sometimes, the best answer is to go shopping because there are limited hours in the day and we annoyingly need to sleep for about 1/3 of them 🙂

  3. I would tell you that you are not alone! I’m in much of the same boat–seriously. Questioning the direction of my blog and how to see if I can monetize it is at the top of my list. It’s hard to keep up with posts/planning while also making at the same time. I’m also trying to purge and clean around my house, but I’m tired, too! I hate that being tired has such a negative affect on me and ultimately the people I love. I feel like a mean mom/wife a lot. And also, I’d tell you I’ve been on a non-Whole 30 for the past month and a half and I feel like GARBAGE. It is such a hard cycle to get out of.

    Sending good vibes your way. Fall is here–that’s definitely my favorite! P.S.–I love the idea of this post! Do you mind if I steal it sometime? 🙂

    1. Oh, it’s nice to know that I’m not alone! Exhaustion and poor eating habits are a terrible cycle, and they seem to be self-perpetuating. I know that what I really need to do to feel better and focus better is to sleep and eat well, yet those are some of the hardest things for me to stick with.

      And feel free to steal the idea! I actually stole it from the Sew Caroline blog a few years ago when it was a regular series on her blog 🙂

  4. I would tell you that I’ve enjoyed this post of yours more than any other recently. It just feels more real. I would tell you to stop making yourself crazy with pattern testing, fabric shilling, or unnecessary deadlines to make other people some money (cuz that’s what it really is when you get “free” stuff you have to blog about!). Blog like you’re talking over coffee and the rest will come, if it’s meant to.

    If you want to make a little cash on the blog, monetize it with Google. It actually does work. Personally, I’d rather have ads in my sidebars (that we’re all pretty well trained to ignore at this point) than “sponsorships” and “free” fabric/patterns. But that’s just me.

    1. Yeah, this one definitely felt better than recent posts. A number of my recent posts have felt forced even to me. That’s probably part of why I went so long without posting. I just didn’t feel like forcing it.

      I’ve taken a deliberate and significant step back from pattern testing this year too because I was just getting burned out. I’m testing a pattern now as a favor to a friend, but that’s the only situation I’ll test in now and I only do that sparingly. I will definitely figure out the Google ads, though. I don’t need much, hopefully just enough to cover my domain and hosting costs 🙂

  5. I love this level of sharing Katie. Thank you for sharing your life with everyone.

    I too have been purging ALL THE THINGS. Less stuff, means less stuff for me to take care of. It is streamlining my life in ways that allow me to get more done (which is really important right now).

    Allergies suck teh life out of me at this time of year. It sucks. I either take the allergy medicine and get medicine head OR don’t take anything and feel generally run down. No one wins.

    Slowly but surely, Sewing By Ti is transitioning to LESS posting but more informative. I too struggle to keep my content valuable without sucking the life out of me. I hope we both find our balance.

    1. Allergies are the absolute worst. Mine have gotten worse as I’ve gotten older but they’re nowhere near as bad as my daughter’s 😕

      I always feel like I can focus better and get more done when there is less stuff around. Clutter in my surroundings makes me feel cluttered in my brain.

  6. I would tell you that I miss having coffee with you in these Friday posts…even though I don’t usually read them until Saturday or Sunday! I have a blog, but I post when I want. My one rule is that I will NEVER apologize for posting sporadically…. It’s my hobby, it fits in when it fits in. Life is hard enough without me adding unnecessary pressure on myself because of my hobby.

  7. If we were having coffee, I would tell you I am exhausted and thrilled at just having finished stuffing a 1750 sq ft + garage home into a 16x8x8′ pod, eliminating masses of furniture, fabric, and just stuff. Walking room to room prioritizing what comes and what simply won’t fit is mentally taxing and liberating. Knowing that I am moving into a similarly spaced home that will be loaded with negative space makes my heart full.

    I would also tell you that my personal brand is weighing heavily on me- what I want my blog to mean for myself and others, how transition to more of a selling platform for my handmade goods, and how to maintain the relationships with other “insiders” within the fabric, pattern, and maker community that I value the most.

    1. Congrats on a successful move! I’m so impressed with your move — it’s been 7 1/2 years since I moved and I hope I don’t have to do it for many more!

      I’m having the same struggle with my personal brand. And there is just so little time and mental energy to devote to one more thing…

  8. Hi Katie,
    I would tell you that I’m desperately trying to get on the cleaning-the-clutter train too. With a baby and a toddler too much stuff= too much stress, and not enough happy times together, which is what I want. I am also tired and just coming out of a bad seasonal allergy stint for me too, I take maintenance meds for allergies all year but the grasses in August are particularly bad. I would say that I love the business of having kids and it also makes me tired. Yesterday we all just went for a hike and it made me wish we lived in a cabin somewhere with just the basics and a fire place for winters and room to hike and spend time together and just be. But being in a large metro area I also appreciate being able to tAke a short metro ride to work in a museum once a week with little effort. So many conundrums in life. I hope you get some clarity for your life conundrums this week.

    1. Thank you and I hope the same for you! Parenting is no joke, that’s for sure. I love spending time outdoors with my kids, but I also love taking advantage of the perks that the city has to offer.

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