Coffee Date Friday

Coffee Date Friday {#4}

Hey there peeps, so glad you could join me!


If we were having coffee this morning, I would confess that I’ve been worried this week.  Albert has an ongoing health issue that we’ve been dealing with since approximately 2008.  He had been getting treatment and had a team of specialists all working on his case, but that all ground to a halt a couple of years ago when his main doctor up and left town without telling him.  Seriously, the guy moved to Montana without a single word to Albert and without referring his (very complicated and mysterious) case over to another specialist.  Albert had no idea that he was gone until he called to schedule a follow-up appointment (that was a few months overdue) and was told that the guy had packed up his practice and moved.  That experience so soured Albert on the whole process that he didn’t do anything else on this for over 2 years.  He finally just found a new doctor and we’re starting the whole process again from scratch.  I intend to stay much more involved this time, and will be spending the bulk of my Monday with him on his initial specialist visit as he hops from one test to the next.  This week has been spent trying to remember all the doctors involved the last time around and collect records from their offices.  Undoubtedly this is something we’ll be dealing with for many, many months.  But I am glad the process is underway.

If we were having coffee, I would probably tell you that my kids have been particularly difficult this week.  Well, not the baby — he’s never difficult — but the older two have had us wanting to tear our hair out several times this week.  J in particular has been very defiant and stubborn lately — more than usual it seems. I’d probably ask you if all kids are ridiculously stubborn and headstrong at 2 1/2 and 4 1/2 or if mine are unusual in that regard.  Then I’d laughingly admit that my mother would probably tell me that “the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.”  My own stubbornness was a running joke in my family during my childhood.  My parents used to say that I had the hardest head ever, both literally and figuratively. (I could almost beat my dad in a head-butting contest at the age of 7.  The only reason he’d beat me was because he had more upper body strength.  Now he won’t even try against me.  And yes, my dad and I used to have head-butting contests when I was a kid 🙂 ).

If we were having coffee, I would tell you that N is becoming a ridiculously adorable little drama queen!  She has so much language now and is incredibly expressive.  I jokingly refer to her as the Girl with 10,000 Faces because she seems to have a face for everything.  I have no doubt that she will follow in my own Thespian footsteps.

I’d also tell you that in my bootcamp class this morning we did a full hour of yoga, and it felt so good!  I used to practice yoga 2-3 times per week before kids, but since having kids, I haven’t been able to find a class at a convenient time and location.  It seems just about every class is early morning, which I can’t do, during work hours, which isn’t ideal, or during bedtime.  But I’d love to start doing more yoga — my hips and back were loving it!

If we were having coffee, I’d tell you that Baby J is still getting up at least once per night to nurse and sometimes as often as 3 times per night!  I’m really hoping he starts to cut out all these night feedings on his own soon.  If he doesn’t, I’ll give him until 6 months and then start actively trying to reduce his night feedings.  I’m pretty sure I deserve an unbroken night’s sleep by now!

If we were having coffee, what would you tell me?

Linking up with Rags to Stitches for Coffee Date Friday.

0 thoughts on “Coffee Date Friday {#4}

  1. i love coffee friday! i’ll be thinking about you and albert–navigating the medical world is no fun! this week, i turned off the baby monitor at night and i have slept better. little E seems to be doing fine with me not listening to her every breath at night. she is a loud sleeper and was waking me up even when she wasn’t awake. Yes, little C can be stubborn. yesterday, she insisted on wearing shorts to school, even though it was negative something outside. so i let her wear the shorts, with leggings and a dress on top of that. She thought she won the battle, but secretly, i felt victorious. 🙂

    miss you!

    1. J and N both cut out their night feedings by themselves around 4.5 months, so having to break Baby J of his will be new territory for me, and one that I’m not particularly looking forward to! Thankfully he’s not a very loud sleeper and our monitor doesn’t pick up every breath, but I am getting tired of waking up to feed him at night. Last night he woke up at midnight and then not again until 7:15 — it felt amazing to get over 6 hours of sleep all in a row!

      I’d feel victorious in that situation too! I’m a firm believer in picking my battles, and I wouldn’t pick that one either.

      There’s a little girl in J’s class who insists on wearing sundresses to school every single day, even in the dead of winter. And she also hates to wear tights/leggings and sweaters. One of the days when we had temps near 0 (not nearly as common here as where you are, thank goodness), I noticed E was wearing leggings when I dropped J off and remarked on it to her and her mom. She of course pointed out to her mom that I was wearing a skirt that day with no tights or leggings. Oops!

  2. I so look forward to these posts!

    I hope Albert’s health mystery is solved. The not knowing must be especially hard.

    As for stubborn streaks — oh Lawdy. We’ve got a 4.5-year-old that refuses to conform to rules/standards/anything unless it makes sense to him. He despises being bossed around and absolutely will not do things until HE is ready. Once I discovered (with my husband’s help) that we’re just alike, it made sense. It doesn’t make it easier, but some days it helps to get inside his head.

    1. I’m glad to know that I’m not alone in dealing with stubborn and difficult kids! My 4.5-year-old’s defiance is the biggest stresser by far. He’s such a sweet boy but when we have to ask him to do something a dozen times and get ignored every single time, it gets really, really frustrating. I’m still holding out hope that he’ll outgrow at least some of this soon!

  3. Thanks for the update. I am reading it as I sit here sipping a cup of tea. I will be praying that the new doctors can get to the bottom of Albert’s health issue. The unknown is always so frustrating and navigating new doctors even more so.
    It seems most children under 5 have that strong willed streak. They are testing the boundaries and seeing just how much they can get away with. Try to be consistent in discipline. I know my son has worked wonders with our youngest grandson. He is by far the most strong willed of the three. With consistent, loving discipline, they are seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.
    Enjoy your coffee and your day!

    1. Thank you. My son is 4.5 now (5 in May — almost here!), and we’re starting to see some glimpses of the light at the end of the tunnel. He is at least so much more reasonable now than he was a year or two ago, which helps a TON! He can get really defiant though and has incredily selective hearing. On days when my brain isn’t quite ready to deal with all that, it can drive me up the wall!

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